why people shouldn’t put natural-haired Black women on pedestals:
well
- because it reduces what may have been a very difficult, personal journey to something for the consumption of others.
i think it’s great when people support us, because it is not easy having nappy hair in…
When neo-soul singer Erykah Badu announced her third pregnancy in 2008, some fans attacked her for having children outside of marriage with more than one father. One online commenter labeled the singer, known for rocking a mega ’fro, ‘trash with great hair.’ A Zimbio.com article that referred to Badu’s ‘growing list of baby daddies’ featured a ‘Knocked Up Again’ headline. A blog article wondered baldly if the singer was ‘a ho.’ She was derided as a poor example of black womanhood. The storm got so heavy that Badu bit back in a lengthy and poetically unapologetic online post about her family that ended with an entreaty to ‘Kiss my placenta.’
Three years later, when Beyoncé announced she was expecting, she was publicly applauded for doing pregnancy ‘the right way,’ and celebrated for being a model of black womanhood. Even Diddy’s 18-year-old son, Justin Combs, weighed in on Bey’s proper use of her uterus. Combs tweeted: ‘Beyoncé dated, married, THEN got pregnant…young ladies take notes.’ (No word on whether Combs’s dad, who has never married but has five children, is also taking notes.)
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I think this proves my point[s] again regarding the fact that Beyonce’s pregnancy & birth were applauded, while overall Black motherhood is degraded. Mainly because Black motherhood is stereotyped. Black mothers are seen as vile, crude, loud-mouthed ghetto bitches and ho’s , welfare queens, unmarried womyn who have children out of wedlock. They are seen as violent towards their children and their children’s father, as birthing the unwanted, the excess. However, when someone like Beyonce, who falls well within the politics of respectability, who’s rich, light skinned, thin, with no visible disabilities, and married, has a child; folks use her as a example of what black mothers SHOULD be, how they SHOULD rear a child. Essentially, they are using her body to uphold standards of respectabiltiy and white supremacy, simultaneously degrading those “regular” black womyn while not examining the privileges that Beyonce has. Once again, this is also true because Blue Ivy’s birth is within the confines of a heterosexual marriage, which assumed monogamous dating preceeded. Blue Ivy is not the excess or the unwanted, ze’s the prized because hir mother “did it the right way.” She reproduced into a capitalist, heteronormative familial structure. That’s when its all good, that’s when its ok & cool to be a Black mother, when you’re Beyonce. Hmph. (via hiphopcheerleader) |
I hate when consenting adults do things with their own bodies that aren’t what I would choose to do with my body!
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| — | Signed Slut Shamers, Who Apparently Have Nothing Better To Do Than Police Other People’s Consensual Sexual Activities (via deviantfemme) |
Terrence and Rocsi recently announced they are leaving 106 and Park, and so for some of us who were also around during the AJ and Free era we are wondering who could possibly succeed all four of them. Now I usually don’t do informative posts and keep my tumblr strictly artistic and creative, but…
i swear fo gawd
whoever keeps sayin women aint funny
just never met enough black girls and latinas
they keep me crying, i promise
So I just tried on some pants that are a size 1 for shits and giggles (I haven’t been a size 1 since I was like 14) and they fit o_o and now I’m mad confused because ain’t no way they should fit. My body is so weird because depending on the day I can were anything from 3 to a 9 but my weight never changes. I went up two cup sizes in a year and never gained a pound its like my body is moving the fat around to where it wants idk… But I’m wearing these pants tomorrow cuz who knows if they’ll fit again
Lmao please tell me Ito a joke
negative. they were very real and available at corner stores everywhere.
I find, in being black, a thing of beauty: a joy; a strength; a secret cup of gladness.
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Wimmin
I love how society puts women against each other, and then blames women for their lack of solidarity, especially blk womenz.
This X 1000
